I've always prided myself in being culturally sensitive.  So when my friends showed up on my birthday with a bunch of sombrero hats, I was hesitant to go along with the plan.  My buddies had decided they would take me to a Mexican restaurant (my favorite), and they thought sombreros would add to the fun.

I couldn't solidify any direct argument against the sombreros when they stood firm against my initial objection, so I reluctantly donned my giant hat and tried to squeeze into the back of a small car with my four goofy amigos.  

I again raised my concern about offending someone when they told me we were going to an authentic Mexican restaurant.  They countered that the famous movie "The Three Amigos" didn't seem to offend anyone despite the gringos using sombreros throughout the movie.  They said the key is that everyone knows you're just being silly.

When we arrived at the restaurant, my initial fears were subdued when we were greeted enthusiastically with a large grin and playful response from the Mexican receptionist.  But as we passed by several male servers standing behind a counter I was struck with a sudden feeling of unease about one person in particular.  He was shorter than some of his companions, quite thin, with the kind of look in his eye that suggests a man who holds more social rank than you might guess from surface appearance.  He was grinning like the rest, but there was something else I intuitively sensed that set off a warning in my mind.  

Near the end of our meal my intuitive reaction to the thin waiter revealed itself to be correct.  Several of the Mexican waiters emerged from the kitchen, chanting a Spanish birthday song.  The thin waiter stood directly behind my chair.  I was shocked to suddenly find the birthday cake being smashed in my face!  Everyone laughed (including my friends), but he didn't stop there.  He proceeded to grind the cake into my face, twisting my nose as he pushed the cake around on the face of the man who had offended him.

For a fraction of a second I considered that I might have to stand up and remove his hands from my face.  At that second, his hands were gone, the clapping and cheering receding back into the kitchen.  While my friends were still carrying on the outward cheer, I could see in their faces they were not oblivious to the event that had just taken place.

As they say, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but cake in the face can't hurt me."  No harm done.  I learned my lesson.  I learned to trust my intuition about people.  The logical part of our mind is incapable of processing the kind of information that arises in our consciousness as a glimpse into the future or a glimpse into the mind of another person.  We trust our logic too much.  We should listen to our intuition when it comes to people.

All too often, we stifle the insights we get about people.  Intuition is crushed by the very habits of thought and analytical reasoning trained into our minds from the day we first entered the formal education system.  And for good reason- unless we're talking relationships.  In the world of relationships, intuition rules.

As a dating and relationship coach, I have seen the amazing power women have for intuitively gaining insights about relationship issues.  Some women are simply uncanny in their ability to know the thoughts of the men they are dating.  Others voice insights but then quickly backtrack, insisting you cannot act on information when you don't know where that information came from.

I have learned to coach women to further develop their intuition about men and relationships.  It brings far superior results.  
I find there are certain building blocks that help women understand men, but at some point they need to spread their wings and leave that foundation behind.  I have been studying methods to help women do just that.  If you would like to learn the full power of your natural female intuition, I invite you to look over my shoulder as I reveal the methods that have brought intuition to life for other women.

James Bauer